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What Others Say

Here is a sample of what people working through the 12-week workbook have said:

"I am on week 5 of the study and my only wish is that I would have started before my family left me. I guess having them leave put enough gravity to my affliction that I sought the Lord and He led me to your website and this workbook. The study has given me a hunger to get closer to Christ. Each day I feel His healing touch. My urges are not gone, but I can now do something about it before I act out. My life is under new management!"

"I am currently finishing week 3 of this 12-week study and have been amazed thus far on how much my heart has been changing. I found out about this study from my accountability partner who met the Founder of Proven Men Ministries at a men's retreat a few years ago. My friend did this study and had his life freed from the bondage of sexual sin and he wanted to share it with me as well."

"I think there needs to be a warning at the start of the workbook. I would suggest something like, " This book will stir up emotions and reveal things to you that will not make you happy and show you how your really live ." [When I first started the workbook I was so convicted over seeing for the first time my selfishness (wanting to be first), self-sufficiency (wanting to be in control), self-gratification (wanting to be served), greed (wanting more), and pride (wanting in on my terms), that I closed the book and ran and hid in pornography. But the Holy Spirit drew me back to Christ, the only One who can save and heal me. I felt such a longing to return to the Lord, so I returned to the study and am using it to go to Jesus and am making it a part of my daily prayer time.]"

"The 12-week study is intensive. So I thank God who has helped me stay faithful to it, which really is a phenomenal, anointed study. The workbook led me to making a goal of reading the Bible and praying with the attitude of getting to "know" God. This has been an essential part of my sobriety. I was ashamed at first, to think that I didn't know God, or that I even had to pray for God to give me a desire to be pure and holy in His presence. But God helped me to be humble, and being humble allows me to see that God's purpose is for men to be close to Christ, and to meet personally with the Lord through the Bible and prayer."

"I am now on the third day of the second week of your study. My family has seen positive changes in me. I truly want to change. What I am feeling now can kind of be described like solving a difficult Calculus problem. The answer is in the back of the book, and others have solved it before you, and you sit there for hours trying to figure it out - encouraged only by the fact that others have gone before you. I have read several books on sexual purity and yours is the best."

"What struck me about your study today was the line where you say "The more time you spend with God (not just learning about Him), the more the eyes of your heart will be open to Him." Knowing God in a personal way and not just in an academic way has been a concept I have only recently begun to grasp. I grew up in the church and was exposed to a lot of head knowledge, but now God in His perfect timing is exposing me to heart knowledge as well."

"Your 12-week study, which I agree should be called "Heartwork," is a tremendous tool. I have turned all areas of my life over to the Lord. I look forward everyday to increase God and decrease my old sinful ways."

"Your workbook helps me to remember that I have a choice each day, either to sin or give my life to Jesus."

"My wife has looked through the study and finds the appendices to be very useful as they apply to everyone. She has even taken up writing her own Psalms to the Lord as a result! "

"I am on week three. This is awesome stuff. Since I've started the study, my eyes have been opened so much. It is truly amazing how God works in our lives if we allow Him."

"I had no clue how selfish and prideful I was in my life. This may be a 12-week study, but I'll be reviewing and praying with this material for a long time afterward."

"As I work through the first two weeks of the study my eyes have been opened to just how selfish my life has been. Now I realize the only way to freedom is to love the Lord with all my heart, soul and mind. I strongly recommend this workbook."

"I first met you a few years ago during a seminar you conducted at men's retreat where you provided me with a of your daily study. Your study led me to a deeper intimacy with Christ, which I never had before. The study was an essential part of my growth. I would like to obtain more workbooks for men at my church. I cannot reinforce how much this took drew me closer to God and identified many issues in my life, and I would like to get some men from my church involved in this workbook."

"Your web site is fantastic. The other day I went there instead of the Internet porn which I was inclined to do. Thanks for sending me a free study even though my address is in the United Kingdom."

"I am working through the study and I'm seeing just how selfish and prideful I am. I'm finally starting to see how this has really been a hindrance in growing closer to God and my family. It's eye opening to see how this smokescreen has been woven around me for 15 years. "

"Thank you for the greatest information on victory over lust. Your web site tells the "truth" about victory. It gave me much encouragement."

"Thanks for putting something out there to help with this addiction that is so common."

"Your study has been extremely convicting, helpful and encouraging."

"This really is a good roadmap to beginning to truly deal with sexual addiction."

"Thanks so much for the Bible-based study. It's helping me so much. It helps me stay on the right course. What a blessing it is that God is using you to help so many men."

"I just wanted you to know that I'm really enjoying going through the study."

"Thanks for providing me with a free copy of your study. I have been struggling with sexual purity for some time, and it is really great being able to have a daily Bible study specifically focused on purity. Being a college student, I don't have a lot of cash on hand, but I'll be sure to donate a little to help keep your ministry running."

"I am now in week three of the study. It has been an eye opening experience for me. The material is very well written and appropriate to my present situation. Thank you for the ministry you are providing. May God continue to lead you in His work."

“Proven Men Ministries has been a blessing to my life. I was born again at an early age and grew up in a Godly Christian home. I lived for Christ closely until I was around 15 or 16, and then drifted away from God. Over the next 15 years of my life I continued to spiral downward and allow myself to sink deeper and deeper into sin. … Over the 35 years of my life I had grown like an onion, yes an onion. I had put on so many different layers and had pretended to be so many different people that I truly did not know who I really was. The Holy Spirit began to wake me up at night bringing different areas of my life that needed correcting to my attention. As you can imagine this was truly a hard place in my life. … Then came my hardest one … the one that I hid way down deep in my heart … the one that was “my secret.” It of course was [sexual sin]. Praise God now for peeling that layer off. It seemed like the web site of Proven Men just popped off the page to me. I went to the web site and the devil instantly said to my mind that “ahh, this is just another bunch of people that’s going to tell you all you have to do is pray and read and poof you will be all better.” I, however, continued to do more reading, I then obtained the book “Striving for Absolute Purity.” The next morning I began to read it. Oh man, guess what, this person was just like me, I was so amazed that there actually was someone out there just like I am. [I then started realizing] really deep down I was a prideful, hateful, angry, full of lust and a greedy person that I had always hated in other people.  Wow, imagine finding out that you was the person that you actually always despised the most, a hypocrite. But 8 weeks ago now after doing the purity study, I learned the most important thing in my life: God does really love me, He really does want me to be different. For all the times I had pushed him away all of a sudden when I came to him he was right there to draw me closer to him.”

“Today makes 94 days since I started “Striving for Absolute Purity” and started being pure before the Lord our God. Proven Men has been a blessing to me and I wanted to thank you again. Also I wanted to thank you for directing me to the on line group “Free in Christ.” It has really been good for me. “Striving for Absolute Purity” is a big help in our group too. It is one of the very important tools in our toolbox that God has used to rebuild His temple in our lives. Thank you so much for being there when I emailed you and your faithfulness to God. I know if I never get to hug your neck here on earth I will surely ask where you are in heaven so I can do it there.”

“My husband [who is in jail] was so overwhelmed at getting the material [“Striving for Absolute Purity”] from your ministry. Other inmates are so hungry and encouraged by just seeing another Christian man go through the same things helped ease some shame and some open Godly conversation about sexual issues is happening. The Prison Chaplin is so excited he is contacting the prison commissioner and requesting your material be made available to all the inmates and he is willing to work with these men in the Chapel.  My Pastor was just as pleased. He got the material this afternoon and called and told me “it was a God thing” as over the week end 2 young men in our church came to him admitting to porn problems. He said as he and my husband work through all of this together via mail he looks for him to have a Joseph experience from the pit to the palace. Now the officials are coming to him asking how to start this Godly program. Thank You for doing the will of Jesus.”

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