By: Allie Joy Hudson 4 min read Thankful in Lust?? When you think about fighting through lust, your natural response probably isn’t to be thankful. Fighting for purity is a hard path, often full of setbacks, frustration, numbness, and discouragement. But there’s an interesting passage in 1 Thessalonians 5 that made me think twice…
Category: Culture
Do Women Struggle with Porn?
By: Allie Joy Hudson (Reader Discretion Advised) Yes, Women Struggle Too It worries me when people refer to pornography, or even lust, as purely a man’s issue. I can assure you that these temptations cross both genders. In my own life, I’ve had to fight lust for years. I’ve had multiple female friends confide…
Is Porn Only a Religious Issue?
By: Shane James O’Neill Porn Is a Religious Issue Due to our sexualized culture, it’s easy to think that arguments for healthy intimacy and arguments against pornography are only made by religious organizations. For instance, when talking about the sex addiction movement, psychologist Dr. David Ley says: “Most of the leaders of the sex…
What’s the Difference Between Porn and Nude Art?
By: Shane James O’Neill 4 min read Nude Art or Porn? A film came out a few years ago, the name of which I’ll refrain from sharing least it lead you in a dangerous direction. Regardless, this film followed the life of a self-diagnosed female sex addict. She loved sex, specifically sex with men,…
Christianity and Lust: What’s the Point of Prayer?
4 minute read By: Shane James O’Neill “I Don’t Know How to Pray” I was leading a Proven Men Group at a church this summer and one of the guys in the group made a confession I didn’t expect. He said, he didn’t know how to pray. Of course, he knew the mechanics of…
Pornography and Doubting Faith
By: Cale Baker 4 min read Pornography and Doubting Faith During my senior year in college, I went through a lengthy period of doubt, and I questioned a lot about the Christianity I was living. Questions about hell, about sexual morality, about God’s goodness, and about God’s love plagued me, and since this was…
Sexualized TV
4 minute read By: Allie Joy Hudson Parks and Rec The other day I was watching Parks and Rec, and one of the characters comments, “I’ve seen a LOT of porn.” Another character shoots him a brief, disgusted look, but that is the only reaction he is given, as if what he said was…
Why We Pursue Porn over Sex
3 minute read By: Shane James O’Neill The Porn Oscars WHy We Pursue porn Kevin D. Williamson describes how every year the Hard Rock Hotel and Casino is packed out for the Adult Video News awards ceremony (AVN) — also known as the “Porn Oscars”. Presentations are given, new products are displayed, vendors of…
Humans Are Made for Pleasure
4 minute read By: Shane James O’Neill A Land of Pleasure Did you know Eden means pleasure, even ecstasy? Some versions have more literally translated a verse like Genesis 2:8 as “The Lord planted a paradise of pleasure” instead of “a garden in Eden.” The story goes that God created man and woman to…
Interview with Former Porn Star Brittni De La Mora
Q&a with Brittni De La Mora Brittni De La Mora is a former porn star who is recorded to have made $30,000 a month in the adult entertainment industry. Even with that kind of fame, her life (along with the industry) was filled with abuse, shame, loneliness, and hurt. Brittni De La Mora has been…
4 Questions to Ask Your Significant Other This Valentine’s Day
By: Shane James O’Neill It’s that time of year — good ol’ Valentine’s Day. In the midst of our sexualized culture, what does it look like to love well? For Valentine’s Day, here are four questions to ask your significant other that will help you to know their heart, not just their body. For…
2018, From Sex Trafficking to Pornography
By: Shane James O’Neill Every January all the big pornography organizations release their growth numbers. And every year the numbers double and then triple as the porn industry grows from a garden snake into a dragon. Of course, this growth has an immediate affect on sex trafficking, as nearly all trafficking is advertised through…
How to Find Purity This Christmas
By: Shane James O’Neill 3 min read All of Creation Waiting The true light, which gives light to everyone, was coming into the world. John 1:9 We’re told that Jesus came at the fullness of time. Prophecy and promise were building through the ages until the Word became flesh. It’s crazy to think that…
Why You Hate Repentance
By: Shane James O’Neill Our Rights Repentance. What a dirty word. In the West, we’re all about independence. It’s one of our greatest values. Words like obey, submit, apologize, and repent, strike against our notions of independence. Autonomy is our entitlement, our privilege. We get to live however we want, and there’s hell to…
Publicly Violated or Boiled Alive: How Jesus Revolutionized Western Sexual Ethics
By: Shane James O’Neill In high school, my friends would give up porn for Lent. Let me revise that: in high school, my secular friends would give up porn for Lent. None of us were Christians so I was shocked when I first found out my friend-group would endeavor to kick porn every year…
5 Dead Porn Stars and the Value of Your Body
By: Shane James O’Neill Earlier this year, 5 porn stars died in the span of 3 months. All of their deaths were self-inflicted, through overdosing on drugs or suicide. But why do porn stars and other sex workers have a high suicide rate? They make good money and their job is to have as…
Christian Violence
By: Victor Stanely Jr. and Marcia Smith The Violent Christian Pacifist “Murder is a tough thing to digest, it’s a slow process, and I ain’t got nothin’ but time…” These words are uttered by Jay-Z on the song Dead President II. The words capture the thinking of a certain type of person whom I like…
7 Ways to Restore Postmodern Sexuality
By: Allie Joy Kapus HEart breaking Research I spent many hours during my junior and senior years of college researching postmodern sexuality. I pored over statistics, rates, and facts. I saw that divorce, hooking up, and pornography have come to define the way that many Americans view and approach sex. It became real to…
Broken Families and Broken Sexuality
By: Allie Joy Kapus Faithfulness and Suicide I read a short story two years ago that left a huge imprint on me. It’s called “To Room Nineteen” by Doris Lessing. The story focuses on Susan, a woman who was cheated on after a decade of faithful marriage. But when her husband tells her about…
Sex on My Terms: What is Postmodern Sexuality?
By: Allie Joy Kapus Sex, By Myself What makes me feel good? What turns me on? What numbs my mind and helps me forget stress and life and other people for a while? It’s like tunnel vision. These questions form the bedrock of the way that our society has come to view sex, relationships,…
Uber and Strippers
By: Shane James O’Neill A Rough Night As a college student, I would sometimes drive Uber — I was able to work my own hours and work on my own time. There were plenty of cool experiences, as well. I’d get to talk politics, learn new music, learn different cities, meet people from all…
The Most Popular Pornography of 2017
By: Shane James O’Neill *READER DISCRETION ADVISED Pornhub In January, Pornhub, the largest pornographic website in the world, released their analytics from the 2017 year. The stats are harrowing. But as one victim of the serial abuser Larry Nassar said: We can tend to gloss over the devastation of any kind of suffering but…
Getting Singleness Right
By: Kyle Thorp Married to Myself “I firmly believe that each of us must first of all love ourselves . . .You can have a fairytale even without the prince,” said Laure Mesi from Italy, regarding her self-marriage ceremony on September 27. Oddly enough, Mesi is not the first person to “marry herself.” Although…
Rethinking Singleness
By: Shane James O’Neill Misunderstanding If you’re single right now then you have the gift of singleness. Most of the time we think of ‘the gift of singleness’ as we would ‘the gift of marriage’. The thinking goes like: Marriage is for life so if we embrace singleness then that must be for life, as…