By: Allie Joy Hudson 3 min. read The “What’s” of Sex How do you usually hear sex being discussed, especially from a Christian perspective? I’ve noticed that oftentimes in the Church, when sex does get mentioned, it’s mentioned from the angle of context. We hear about what context – marriage – is right for…
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Marriage and the Fantasy of Options
Marriage and the Fantasy of Options By: Shane James O’Neill 3 min. read Marriage: A Horrible Idea When I was preparing to get engaged, all I could think about was how marriage is basically a thought experiment gone horribly wrong. It played out like this: Professor enters the classroom. “Kids, today in class I…
Discipline, Sex, and Your Marriage
By: Allie Joy Hudson 5 min. read Sex and Fire I always like the analogy that compares sex to a fire. In the right context, like a fireplace, a fire is a beautiful thing. It’s warm, comforting, and purposeful. It sustains life. But, when a fire occurs outside of the right context, it’s destructive,…
8 Ways to Strengthen Your Sex Life Together
By: Allie Joy Hudson 5 min. read The Sex List Sometime last year, my husband and I sat down at our kitchen table and wrote out our “sex list.” We have open talks about sex often, but writing this list gave us an opportunity to clearly express our expectations, hopes, and goals for our…
Sexual Integrity After “I Do”
Sexual Integrity After “I Do”: Continuing the Fight By: Allie Joy Hudson 4 min. read What About After Marriage? “Lord, why won’t my struggle with lust just go away? Please take it from me!” This prayer is not just the prayer of a single man. Sexual struggles can be long-lasting and stubborn for both…
Three Ways for a Marriage to Heal After Porn
Rebuilding Trust By: Allie Joy Hudson Porn in My Life I remember the night my boyfriend told me about his porn addiction. I knew that he had struggled with porn in the past, but what he hadn’t told me was that he dragged it into our relationship. He watched porn for the first few…
Can a Marriage Heal after Porn?
By: Shane James O’Neill 4 min read “Can we Heal from This??” Recently, I was at a family’s home with several friends for lunch. People were eating all over the house, so I went to the living room, finding myself seated beside the mother of that family. She asked about my work, so I told…
Sex in Marriage Won’t Fix You
By: Shane James O’Neill 4 min read Once I Get Married… An article titled A Laptop Never Say No begins by stating the fear of competition a woman feels in relationships. In the opening paragraph the author says: “Once upon a time, a woman’s greatest fear was a good-looking … blonde. These days, her…
3 Ways My Husband and I Were Able To Stay Pure Before Marriage
5 minute read By: Allie Joy Hudson Sex was an option The other day I had a sobering thought: It would have been so easy for us to give in and have sex before we were married. Wow. Honestly, it would have. If we wanted to, we could have made it happen. Praise be…
The Importance of Sex in Marriage
By: Allie Joy Hudson Is Sex a Need? Over the past week or so, I’ve been thinking over the question, “Do married Christians need sex”? Why would we need to seek satisfaction if we serve and are genuinely focused on God? But on the other hand, God created sex specifically for the marriage context….