Healthy porn Does Not Exist

In truth, I wish that I could leave it at that single statement. “Healthy porn does not exist.” Period. Paragraph. End of story. Hard stop.

Sadly, however, we live in an era that is scrambling desperately to justify all of its vices. If we want a thing then we must deserve it. If the thing is available then it must be all right. And if everyone else is doing it, then what’s the problem?

For several years we have tallied the toll that pornography has taken on the world. Perennially anecdotal sentiments and consistently verifiable statistics only continue to reveal the same unavoidable, unassailable truth: pornography is inherently destructive in every form. There is no iteration in which porn is ever healthy.

Porn stars’ decay

When male performers need a bottle of Viagra for a day at the office and female subjects routinely require STD medication, where do we expect to find the healthy porn on display‽ Countless previous porn stars have come out of the industry describing the horrors and abuse they suffered for their time beneath the baleful lights. And the masses are supposed to find their own revelry in this degradation.

Let’s entertain the possibility, at least for a moment, that there’s a perfectly insulated porn production company somewhere out there in that vast nefarious ether of miscreants and ne’er-do-wells. “You will never find a more wretched hive of scum and villainy.” But maybe, just maybe there are some real heroes hiding in their midst.

In this Imagination Station Exploration, we have at least two people determined to give you the very best quality in ethically sourced, organic, vegan, cruelty-free pornography. We might entertain another party, the producer, who is equally incentivized to capture their escapades on film and render the post-production for your viewing pleasure, free of guilt in its distribution as 100% healthy porn. You can subscribe, download, and imbibe self-centered gratification with no fear of even tangential child-trafficking or exploitation of anyone involved.

Thing 1: I challenge you to identify such an arrangement. It doesn’t exist.
Thing 2: Even if you *did* manage to find such a company, you still wouldn’t ever find anything like a realistic portrayal of any couple’s actual sex life together. Pornography will never, CAN never, show you something worth emulating.
Thing 3: It still leaves you in a room alone. Isolated. Withdrawn. Addicted.

Gilding for Geldings

The only thing that changes is the level of deceit for the illusion. Any element of “story” for the production does not change the base fact that an individual is gratifying themselves through base voyeurism. OnlyFans has coopted a compelling layer of personal connection so that a delusional relationship becomes more enticing. Yet any engagement of sex-for-itself is nothing but a sham.

If we are honest with ourselves, we know this to be true the instant we stare it in the face. Men are becoming more impotent. Women experience vaginismus to greater extents. People are increasingly more incapable of real, in-person, physical sex than ever before. Tragic as this is, it makes perfect sense. If we practice disembodiment regularly, finding our sensual satisfactions predominantly in virtual spaces, what else could happen other than to find ourselves as strangers to our own bodies‽

real world sex

The loudest voices across all the media platforms do not want to admit it. Nevertheless: committed, monogamous relationships between a man and a woman are the single arrangement whereupon the most dynamic and ultimately fulfilling sex lives are to be found. If we are going to discuss “healthy porn” in any way that isn’t disingenuous, then we have to keep the goal in view.

Why do we want sex in the first place? It isn’t simply for orgasm. This is proven out by the increase in pleasure between couples whenever they are appropriately vulnerable and emotionally available to one another. The thing that we want the most is to be connected at a level of spirit. The sexual climax simply becomes an expressed exhilaration of that shared state together. What a body would seek out in the sham of “healthy porn” can only ever really be found within marriage.

Perhaps you are tired of the lie. Would you like to know lasting freedom for yourself? This is what we do at Proven Ministries. And it has worked thousands of times over – all across the world. This story can be yours too.

– C.T. Giles