Addicted to Pornography John Herrald “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness…” — Jesus, Sermon on the Mount The eyes are a window into the soul….
Assess Your Sexual Purity
By: Shane James O’Neill Proven Men has created a purity quiz to show you where you are on a scale of sexual purity. We run churches and schools through this assessment, but we want to give it to you for free. So here you go! Before The Assessment, a quick disclaimer Purity works on…
How Porn Damages The Brain
By: Lexie LaVallee It might sound extreme to hear that porn has a severe effect on your brain. I mean, how can something you look at have such a strong effect? We watch tv, movies, and play video games and you don’t hear many people talking about addiction and damage from those things, so…
The Links Between Porn and Sex Trafficking
By: Shane James O’Neill A significant part of combating pornography is through awareness. People generally think porn isn’t an issue and that it doesn’t do any harm. But if people were seriously suffering from our actions, wouldn’t you want to know? My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge; because you have rejected knowledge, I reject you from…
What Research Says About Porn and Relationships
By: Shane James O’Neill As Christians, we’re invited to explore the world, including what secular research provides. As the paraphrased quote from St. Augustine goes: All truth is God’s truth. So what does the secular research tell us about pornography and relationships? What can we learn and how can that learning help us better marvel,…
10 Questions to Ask Your Wife This Valentine’s Day
By: Ricky Bailey Office work can take a lot of energy, as can any trade work. Males often give so much of themselves to the work that they have forgotten how to really give themselves to their wives. Not to mention porn, which is a very demanding mistress who expects all of a person’s…
3 Ways the Gospel Speaks Into Your Sexual Struggle
By: Shane James O’Neill The gospel does a lot. The Gospel has given explanation and meaning to our origin and our history, and it gives an incredible hope of restoration for the future. In this massive work, the gospel also speaks immediately into our lives. Into my life, and into yours. That’s important. If…
Jesus, Your Body, and 5 Dead Porn Stars
By: Shane James O’Neill 5 young female porn stars have died in the last 3 months. All of them from self-inflicted homicides, through overdosing on drugs or suicide. But why do porn stars and other sex workers have such an incredibly high suicide rate? After all, they make good money and their job is…
3 Ways to Heal From Porn
By: Shane James O’Neill Have you or someone you care about ever been damaged by the scars of pornography? It isn’t enough to say that porn just affects our bodies: pornography impacts our relationships, our bodies, and our imaginations. Here are 3 practices that will help to heal you from pornography by allowing you…
Jesus and Porn
By: Josh When 97% of men have viewed pornography: I hope this story gives you light in your situation and a picture into our Christian culture. My Early Years I was born and raised in a Christian home in a small town in Northern Michigan. Everybody knew everybody, and everything was everyone’s business. I…
A New Solution for 2018 Resolutions
By: Shane James O’Neill An Old Resolution I remember back when my New Year’s resolutions would be to pursue an X number of women that year. Most of the time it was an unspoken and unwritten resolution. Other times it was an active boast and wager among friends. Man, what a shameful way to…
Generational Purity
By: C. T. Giles My wife is the only naked woman that I have ever beheld. To be very clear, this means that I have never been exposed to pornography in any fashion. I escaped my adolescent years unscathed by the menace, having never been subjected to the stuff through abuse, as many…
A Resolution For Purity
Are you tired of being trapped in porn and masturbation? Do you want to find the relationship with God that you’ve always yearned for? Don’t live another year enslaved, wanting to grow but not knowing how. The Proven Workbook is designed to get you face to face with Jesus so that you can know…
Lust and The Holidays
By: Shane James O’Neill provEn: Eternal In Perspective When it comes to purity there are two ways we should always keep perspective: You are not the center of eternity Eternity is on your side The Holiday Season Holiday seasons are a unique time in the purity calendar (that’s not an actual calendar, in case…
Lusting During Church
By: Shane James O’Neill Lusting Sitting in church, singing, worship, beautiful voices, God’s Word, smiling, laughter, lust. Can’t focus. Good things are being said, but I can’t hear them. People are trying to connect, but I can’t see them. Old memories vying to be my current masters. They want me to play in a…
Getting Singleness Right
By: Kyle Thorp Married to Myself “I firmly believe that each of us must first of all love ourselves . . .You can have a fairytale even without the prince,” said Laure Mesi from Italy, regarding her self-marriage ceremony on September 27. Oddly enough, Mesi is not the first person to “marry herself.” Although…
Raising From the Dead
By: Shane James O’Neill ProVen: Victorious in Living. Paradox There is an intense, and often confusing, paradox at play in the New Testament: We are given the freedom to be weak and we are given the power to be strong. In Romans chapter 8, St. Paul shares the intensity of this paradox in the…
Rethinking Singleness
By: Shane James O’Neill Misunderstanding If you’re single right now then you have the gift of singleness. Most of the time we think of ‘the gift of singleness’ as we would ‘the gift of marriage’. The thinking goes like: Marriage is for life so if we embrace singleness then that must be for life, as…
Singleness
By Glenn Mosher vanity and expectations Oh how well I remember such moments as a brand new Christian at age 20 in college. Probably because we didn’t know any better we guys would often gather and pray for our ‘future wives’, that special woman God was preparing to make our lives ‘perfect’…though we somehow…
#MeToo
By: Lexie Smith What’s happening If you’ve been on social media this week, you will have seen your feed filled with posts including a hashtag #MeToo. It all came about when actress Alyssa Milano sent out a tweet. It’s an awareness campaign to illustrate how many people have been sexually assaulted. The numbers are overwhelming….
How Should Husbands Love Their Wives?
By: Ricky Bailey Understanding Culture Every culture has a narrative. I don’t just mean stories people use to try and make sense of life, but a script that has been written for the culture, and the people live it out nearly exactly. Our culture is no different. We have been sold a story of…
Passion and Destroying the Sacred
By: Shane James O’Neill What are you passionate about? If I asked you to name one thing you’re passionate about, could you? Maybe it’s something you do right now. Maybe it’s something you’ve already found. Or maybe it’s a dream; a hope that is pulling you forward in life. ‘Passionate’. That’s a buzz word,…
Dating 100 People — A Parody on Western Date Culture
By: Shane James O’Neill Would it help you to know that porn is physiologically damaging and that you’re designed for one person? Let’s play this out and see if a little satire can give clarity. Nurture vs nature When it comes to dating, the West has definitely made the right decision by putting all…
Why Is Marriage Between One Man And One Woman?
By: Kyle Thorp Protect, not Oppress While I was growing up, there was a piece of paper taped to a wall in my house. On that paper was a simple drawing: A circle with a dot just outside of it and an arrow pointing to the middle of the circle. My parents explained to…