Revealing the hidden roots fueling lust, porn, affairs, and all other sexual sins. by Joel Hesch, Founder of Proven Ministries I am writing blogs to systematically guide people to gain and retain sexual integrity. The first blog spoke of making a decisive decision and commitment that your particular sexual sin is not an option and…
Category: Why Purity Matters
How I stopped masturbating and looking at porn after 25 years of addiction
The Two Keys to Victory: How I stopped masturbating and looking at porn after 25 years of addiction by Joel Hesch, founder of Proven Ministries Introduction The struggle with porn, masturbation, or other sexually addictive behaviors feels like a fight for survival, where each day brings its own battles, and the waves of temptation threaten…
The Best Gift for Valentine’s Day
Reflections from a hapless middle schooler When I was in Middle School, I was terrified that somebody might out me for never having kissed a girl before. As I’ve looked back over my memories from those years, I’ve never been able to identify any singular source for that fear. It was just something that I…
Parenting and Sexual Integrity
By: Kent Evans 3 min. read Parenting on Purpose It’s important, as parents, that we play good defense regarding sexual temptation. The Bible tells us to flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18, 2 Timothy 2:22). We do well to relay those same warnings to our children. Especially, in today’s day and age, with easy…
Is Sexual Integrity Legalism?
5 minute read By: Shane James O’Neill Revolution and Legalism People brought up in church often think people in the world are having a blast, pursuing pleasure however they want it, without shaming from parents, friends, teachers, or pastors. In many of our hearts, this develops a sense of envy for the pleasures they’re…
How Shame and Boredom Feed Lust
By: Lexie LaVallee Barren Passions Most porn users struggle with deep-seated shame. Porn rewires your brain and your emotions and it severely messes with your creativity. When you’re giving so much of your passion to artificial sex then you don’t have nearly as much to give to other people or other passions. And that…
Porn Is Not Victimless
By: Lexie LaVallee rape, Porn, and Trafficking If you haven’t read my story, it would help for you to know that I was trafficked as a child. Do you know how buyers found me? Porn. The advertisement for the sale of my body was through a video of me being raped. That was during…
The Reason Why Porn Is Everywhere
By: Dane Skelton Stories from a Pastor The man shaking my hand after church said, “My porn addiction cost me my job and I had to move. My wife considered leaving but held on, and now we are attempting to rebuild but she has a hard time trusting me. Another big downer is that…
How Porn Damages The Brain
By: Lexie LaVallee It might sound extreme to hear that porn has a severe effect on your brain. I mean, how can something you look at have such a strong effect? We watch tv, movies, and play video games and you don’t hear many people talking about addiction and damage from those things, so…
3 Ways the Gospel Speaks Into Your Sexual Struggle
By: Shane James O’Neill The gospel does a lot. The Gospel has given explanation and meaning to our origin and our history, and it gives an incredible hope of restoration for the future. In this massive work, the gospel also speaks immediately into our lives. Into my life, and into yours. That’s important. If…
Jesus, Your Body, and 5 Dead Porn Stars
By: Shane James O’Neill 5 young female porn stars have died in the last 3 months. All of them from self-inflicted homicides, through overdosing on drugs or suicide. But why do porn stars and other sex workers have such an incredibly high suicide rate? After all, they make good money and their job is…
3 Ways to Heal From Porn
By: Shane James O’Neill Have you or someone you care about ever been damaged by the scars of pornography? It isn’t enough to say that porn just affects our bodies: pornography impacts our relationships, our bodies, and our imaginations. Here are 3 practices that will help to heal you from pornography by allowing you…
#MeToo
By: Lexie Smith What’s happening If you’ve been on social media this week, you will have seen your feed filled with posts including a hashtag #MeToo. It all came about when actress Alyssa Milano sent out a tweet. It’s an awareness campaign to illustrate how many people have been sexually assaulted. The numbers are overwhelming….
Why Does Purity Even Matter!?
By: Shane James O’Neill Confused by Paul In Colossians 1:24 Paul says something seemingly funky: “Now I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake, and in my flesh I am filling up what is lacking in Christ’s afflictions for the sake of his body, that is, the church.” But what the heck does that even…
5 Ways to Encourage Sexual Purity in the Church
There’s little doubt that pornography has a devastating impact on individuals and the church body. The question is not if porn is a problem in the church, but how the church can work towards healing and restoration. With 97% of Christian men admitting that they’ve viewed pornography, this can be a daunting challenge to approach….